Toxic Relationship: 3 Reasons Women Like Bad Boys
From near or far, we have all witnessed a toxic relationship in which someone we know ended up in a relationship with a bad boy: a man who did not treat her well. This situation always leads to psychological violence but can also go as far as physical violence and take dramatic proportions.
The most reasonable and sensible thing to do in these cases is to run away from this type of relationship and walk away from these inherently evil men. In theory, nothing could be simpler, but everything becomes much more complicated when you are at the heart of this relationship. When feelings get involved: everything becomes much more complicated.
The first thing to do in order to detach yourself is also to understand. How did we get here ? Why let it go? How did it start? To do well, you must first know the reasons for this influence. Once you identify why you're attracted to a bad boy, you'll be better able to step back, detach, and move on.
We interviewed experts and analyzed the real reasons why we continue to love those who hurt us. Here are the main reasons:
Bad boys are good manipulators
Often it's not that we like the abuser, it's that we are unable to see the harmful or even toxic behavior of our partner. People who want to have control over their spouse are often good at manipulation. They are waiting unconsciously or consciously for the other to be hooked and vulnerable in order to show themselves as they really are. First, it's the perfect lover and little by little the crises of jealousy, isolation and arguments make their appearances...
Childhood problems
Another major cause is the way we experienced our childhood. If during this stage of life we have learned that when we are mistreated it is because we have done something wrong, it is "normal" that in adulthood we can believe (or make us believe ) that when we do or think we have done something wrong, we deserve to experience some form of violence in return. What we experience and see during childhood is very important for our adult life. This is why it is important to be aware, to assume and to correct possible traumas.
Low self-esteem attracts toxic relationships
Low self-esteem also prevents us from believing that we deserve a better life and therefore a harmonious love life. This is why it is very important to work on confidence and self-love, to feel good about ourselves and to take care of ourselves. It is important to give yourself time, to have your space and to know yourself well before starting a relationship. The more we love each other, the better we love.
